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Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Being Conscious
Our outer reactions are a direct reflection of our inner thoughts.
I can see how this can happen. Yesterday, I had a power struggle with my six year old. I probably got too worked up and upset because I thought that his hesitation to "do his part" was a projection on me. In my mind at that moment, I didn't do my job right as a mother. So I reacted too strongly. My reaction was definitely influenced by these thoughts. Gratefully, my son and I have a better day ahead of us. Hopefully, I'm a wiser mother for having had the struggle with him yesterday.
You are a wonderful mother, Kelly. It is also very good that you are conscious of your thoughts. My mother was most certainly conscious of hers and taught us to be the same way. Of course, anything can be taken to the extreme and balance is important. This day will indeed be better because of the great mom that you are and the lessons you teach your children. They understand, even at a young age, that parent aren't perfect.
The beauty I think is to try to make it right by various means. Your words, your actions, your smiles, your affirmation... My mom had many means, although she was as an imperfect as all mothers--thought outstanding in many ways. What we saw most was beauty and strength and the fact that she so loved the Lord. I loved the Lord too even when my reactions seemed to be contrary to my heart. (Talk about strong passionate reactions?! Whew! :-))She knew this. Your kids know this too. Peace and love to you.
Great scripture for sure, Corrie. It's a perfect correlation as well. My mother used to quote that one to us often. I like your heart check system. But there were many times as a young person, even sometimes now though by far fewer, that I have spoken not what was in my heart but what was tied to my emotions and have regretted saying so later. I think the key here is the "abundance" which for me has to with consistent thoughts and actions and not merely impulses. The King James Version reads: "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."
"Of course, I could have an abundance of evil, anger, unforgiveness in my heart too. ;-)."
LOL! I've been there! There are scriptures for anger too: "Be angry and sin not." "Anger rests (resides) in the bosom of a fool." I think these things engender evil and unforgiveness over time.
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I can see how this can happen. Yesterday, I had a power struggle with my six year old. I probably got too worked up and upset because I thought that his hesitation to "do his part" was a projection on me. In my mind at that moment, I didn't do my job right as a mother. So I reacted too strongly. My reaction was definitely influenced by these thoughts. Gratefully, my son and I have a better day ahead of us. Hopefully, I'm a wiser mother for having had the struggle with him yesterday.
You are a wonderful mother, Kelly. It is also very good that you are conscious of your thoughts. My mother was most certainly conscious of hers and taught us to be the same way. Of course, anything can be taken to the extreme and balance is important. This day will indeed be better because of the great mom that you are and the lessons you teach your children. They understand, even at a young age, that parent aren't perfect.
The beauty I think is to try to make it right by various means. Your words, your actions, your smiles, your affirmation... My mom had many means, although she was as an imperfect as all mothers--thought outstanding in many ways. What we saw most was beauty and strength and the fact that she so loved the Lord. I loved the Lord too even when my reactions seemed to be contrary to my heart. (Talk about strong passionate reactions?! Whew! :-))She knew this. Your kids know this too. Peace and love to you.
Judith,
I'm thinking I wish I had one fourth of your capacity to come up with this type of terrific post! You're the best!
Thanks, Dave. You are my friend and I appreciate this.
Reminds me of a verse in the bible. "Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks."
I know when I start not liking what is coming out of my mouth that it is time to do a "heart" check.
Great scripture for sure, Corrie. It's a perfect correlation as well. My mother used to quote that one to us often. I like your heart check system. But there were many times as a young person, even sometimes now though by far fewer, that I have spoken not what was in my heart but what was tied to my emotions and have regretted saying so later. I think the key here is the "abundance" which for me has to with consistent thoughts and actions and not merely impulses. The King James Version reads: "Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."
Yes! I like that translation better. Of course, I could have an abundance of evil, anger, unforgiveness in my heart too. ;-).
"Of course, I could have an abundance of evil, anger, unforgiveness in my heart too. ;-)."
LOL! I've been there! There are scriptures for anger too: "Be angry and sin not." "Anger rests (resides) in the bosom of a fool." I think these things engender evil and unforgiveness over time.
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